When women talked about problems, men always resist it. The more problems, the more he feels blamed. He does not realize that she is talking to feel better. A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens. Many times, woman just wants to share her feeling about her day, thinking he is helping and interrupt her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems.

If he assumes she is blaming him, then he draws his sword to protect himself from attacks. When he feels attacked, then he begins to defend himself. He thinks if he explains himself that she will stop blaming him. The more he defends himself, however, the more upset she becomes. He doesn’t realize that explanations are not what she needs. She needs him understand her feeling. Again he doesn’t realize that she is looking not for a solution from him but for his caring and understanding. Is it really so hard to understand?